The Compulsive Reader: Guest Blogger: Alexa Young, Author of Frenemies!

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Guest Blogger: Alexa Young, Author of Frenemies!

What Do You Expect?

The countdown’s on! My first YA novel, Frenemies, comes out in just one week. So I guess it makes sense that people keep asking me if I’m excited or if I’m going to have a huge celebration. What might not make sense is that I’ve been decidedly low-key about the whole thing. Sure, I’m psyched to see the book in stores and especially to hear what readers think of it. But I’m not having a release party and I tend to cringe, even recoil in horror, when people speculate on my imminent fame and fortune. Mostly, I tend to worry that people won’t buy the book—or worse still that they will buy it, they won’t like it, and they’ll (gulp!) return it.

Yeah, yeah, there are those people (cough ~ Pollyannas ~ cough) who say you’ve got to think positively, focus on your ideal outcome, and really build things up if you want them to go your way. Sorry, Oprah, I just can’t do it. In fact, I’m going to be really obnoxious here and claim that optimism will lead to disappointment every time. However, realism—with a healthy pinch of cynicism, pessimism or whatever my neurosis-du-jou might be—has worked fabulously well for me. I mean, my life is good! I’ve got a great family, lovely friends, reasonably good health, a nice place to live, a fun career—and I think I feel this way because I keep my expectations in check. That way, I tend to be pleasantly surprised and content with what I get (although, okay, I might not act like it all the time; apologies to the hubby in particular). Even my good pal Stephen Hawking has said, When one’s expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have.” (How apropos that I received this quote in a “Daily Inspiration” email last week! Seriously.)

I know it probably doesn’t work for everyone, but I definitely prefer to live life in the neutral zone, with a sort of que sera sera, let the chips fall where they may, humble accepting of the fact that I simply can’t control everything (in spite of the fact that I’m a total type-A, Capricorn, control freak). Does that make sense? Is anybody with me on this? Or should I just go away and stop yammering on? Okay, fair enough…

But first, it’s your turn to weigh in: Do you tend to live life with high expectations, low expectations or no expectations—and how’s that all working out for you? Leave a comment here, and our beloved Compulsive Reader will pick 10 winners at random to receive a signed copy of Frenemies! Woo hoo! I wish you good luck…but I definitely don’t want to get your hopes up. Maybe you shouldn’t either. J

Thanks for having me, C.R., and for all the love and support. Love you (mean it)!



Click here to read the review of Frenemies!

ALEXA YOUNG spent the first several years of her professional life working in the music industry—for the legendary capitol records and the irreverently funny trade magazine HITS. She subsequently worked as an editor for the now-defunct teen magazine JUMP, as well as for the #1 women’s fitness magazine in the country, SHAPE. As a freelance writer, she’s contributed to a number of national consumer magazines, including Marie Claire, O: The Oprah Magazine and Family Circle. She holds a bachelor's degree in Literature/Writing from the University of California, San Diego, and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband, son and dog. FRENEMIES is her first novel.





PS from TCR.....Thanks so much for all the kind birthday wishes!!


ChristyJan said...

Congrats on the upcoming release of your first novel!

I'm a worrier ~ and, like you I keep my expectations in check ~ I've found it keeps the disappointments lower and and when good things happen it's a thrill.

Bunny B said...

Woohoo!! I'd love, love, LOVE To win this book :)

For me, I take life one day at a time. I tend not to worry so much.
I have high expectations of what I deem is important in my life - like who I choose for my life partner... but for those that aren't much of a top priority to me, I tend to not have any expectations.

Anonymous said...

This book looks wicked good! I can't wait to read it.

Liv said...

Congrats on the release! I can't wait to read it and I'd love to win a copy!

tetewa said...

Hope you have success on the release and it sounds great. Good luck on the release!

Mari said...

Most definitely high expectations for myself and those around me. Not so much for others. I try to not let things/others bother me but sometimes it is unavoidable.

Congrats on the book. Can't wait to read it.

Madison said...

I lean towards the pessimist side of thing, though I'd say that I don't really have any expectations, except that I expect people to be good people because how hard is it? Apparently very. *snort* But I think it's good to be somewhere in the middle, and for the most part, I think that's where I am.

Good luck with Frenemies!

Elainareads said...

I have high expectations for myself, I want to do great things with my life. But if things dont happen the way I want them I dont beat myself up, I just try again. =D

Awesome guest blog. I can't wait to read your book.

Keri Mikulski said...

Depends on the task at hand. I had very high expectations when I entered your celebrity BFF contest. :) But, yes, I also worry about SCREWBALL returns and tend to live in a world of extremely low expectations. And also like you, this is working pretty well for me so far.

Love the guest blog because it's so honest and refreshing! :) Can't wait to read FRENEMIES.

Anonymous said...

Wow. Ms. Young sounds so nice, and real! I'm really excited to read her book considering how she wrote as guest blogger!


Hillary said...

I think I have pretty high expectations. I always want to get a prefect grade in school, be the one who scores the winning goal in soccer or get to the first clarinet seat. It may or may not be possible for me to do those things, but I always want to be the best at everything I do.

the story siren said...

i already have a copy of frenemies, but i still wanted to stopy by and show some love for alexa!!! *this is my showing some love*

Anonymous said...

I have pretty high expectations. Always want the best to happen and expect everything. Yeah I get let down sometimes but having a high expectation I'll fight for something so alot of times I don't get let down.

Cool contest! Sign me up for it please!

Unknown said...

Great comments, everyone! Keep 'em coming. Methinks many of you could teach me a thing or two about goals and perspective. :) SarahV's comment made me smile the most, though. I don't think I've ever been called Ms. Young. (Hello...could I feel any older?!) Too cute. XO

The Compulsive Reader said...

Bring on those comments! I'm going to be picking winners on Tuesday!

Melissa Walker said...

I have high expectations for myself but I'm always downplaying them in front of others so that I won't disappoint anyone. I'm trying to break that habit though!

Alexa, I love the way you write!

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