What Do You Expect?
The countdown’s on! My first YA novel, Frenemies, comes out in just one week. So I guess it makes sense that people keep asking me if I’m excited or if I’m going to have a huge celebration. What might not make sense is that I’ve been decidedly low-key about the whole thing. Sure, I’m psyched to see the book in stores and especially to hear what readers think of it. But I’m not having a release party and I tend to cringe, even recoil in horror, when people speculate on my imminent fame and fortune. Mostly, I tend to worry that people won’t buy the book—or worse still that they will buy it, they won’t like it, and they’ll (gulp!) return it.
Yeah, yeah, there are those people (cough ~ Pollyannas ~ cough) who say you’ve got to think positively, focus on your ideal outcome, and really build things up if you want them to go your way. Sorry, Oprah, I just can’t do it. In fact, I’m going to be really obnoxious here and claim that optimism will lead to disappointment every time. However, realism—with a healthy pinch of cynicism, pessimism or whatever my neurosis-du-jou might be—has worked fabulously well for me. I mean, my life is good! I’ve got a great family, lovely friends, reasonably good health, a nice place to live, a fun career—and I think I feel this way because I keep my expectations in check. That way, I tend to be pleasantly surprised and content with what I get (although, okay, I might not act like it all the time; apologies to the hubby in particular). Even my good pal Stephen Hawking has said, “When one’s expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have.” (How apropos that I received this quote in a “Daily Inspiration” email last week! Seriously.)
I know it probably doesn’t work for everyone, but I definitely prefer to live life in the neutral zone, with a sort of que sera sera, let the chips fall where they may, humble accepting of the fact that I simply can’t control everything (in spite of the fact that I’m a total type-A, Capricorn, control freak). Does that make sense? Is anybody with me on this? Or should I just go away and stop yammering on? Okay, fair enough…
But first, it’s your turn to weigh in: Do you tend to live life with high expectations, low expectations or no expectations—and how’s that all working out for you? Leave a comment here, and our beloved Compulsive Reader will pick 10 winners at random to receive a signed copy of Frenemies! Woo hoo! I wish you good luck…but I definitely don’t want to get your hopes up. Maybe you shouldn’t either. J
Thanks for having me, C.R., and for all the love and support. Love you (mean it)!
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ALEXA YOUNG spent the first several years of her professional life working in the music industry—for the legendary capitol records and the irreverently funny trade magazine HITS. She subsequently worked as an editor for the now-defunct teen magazine JUMP, as well as for the #1 women’s fitness magazine in the country, SHAPE. As a freelance writer, she’s contributed to a number of national consumer magazines, including Marie Claire, O: The Oprah Magazine and Family Circle. She holds a bachelor's degree in Literature/Writing from the
PS from TCR.....Thanks so much for all the kind birthday wishes!!